You are capable and deserving of living the life you want.
Updated: Dec 4, 2020
Have you ever attempted to take a step towards your goals, your passions and dreams? However you never got to making it happen or even attempting it because when you wanted to take the first step you were greeted with your fears, insecurities and doubts. Your mind was filled with all the reason why you should not do it, you were outnumbered so you caved and gave in to these barriers that you have placed in front of yourself. I know this feeling all too well; I was met with these doubts, fears and insecurities. I had to do the deep work and try to figure out where they stemmed from. I started to challenge these feelings, I learned to change the self limiting believes that I had. I was able to look my fears in the face and this was a slow process to for me, I had to take gradual baby steps. I was overcome with joy every time I overcame a fear of mine. However facing your fears do not mean that the fear is gone; it means that you are facing it despite the presence of it. You will thank yourself once you have conquered your fears and never gave up on yourself. When it comes to facing your fears, you can take baby steps, until you are ready to take the big step. You have to take the first step or else you will be stagnant, crawl if you have to, any move towards bettering yourself, is the right move. Do not let doubt in because doubt is the destroyer of dreams, silence the voice of doubt; it will talk you out of your dreams and goals. Every time you have a negative thought, quickly catch it and change it to a positive thought. Always remember that you are the one in control of your destiny, it is within you to become all that you have dream of. You have everything within you to be great; do not allow your fears, doubt and insecurities derail you from the life that you have envisioned for yourself. Therefore go for it, even if you are trembling, go for it, even if your heart is racing, go for it and you will be so glad that you did. You have to decide how badly you want it and be willing to put in the hard work, stay the course and never giving up even when things get tough. I started believing in myself, believing that I was capable and deserving of going after the life that I wanted. And I know you can do the same.
We all have self limiting believes that have been adopted from childhood or from a certain event. As a result of these experiences we have developed these self limiting beliefs, which stay with us through out our lives. These believes are imprinted in our minds and impact how we maneuver in our day to day life’s. These limiting beliefs at times hold us back and are a hindrance to our success and the way we behave and move in the world. You have to be able to identify these beliefs and ask yourself what they are holding you back from. Many people have defined themselves on how they feel, how they feel stems from their thoughts and their thoughts come from their beliefs which at times is self-limiting. A lot of people carry around believe from their childhood, maybe they were told they would not amount to anything and they have started to believe this and this believe is always lingering in the back of their mind. That is why it is crucial to question these beliefs, “where did it stem from and how is this believe serving me and the person that I am trying to become”. In order to break free from your negative believes you have to be able to do self reflection and dig deeper to be able to deconstruct it. You will not be able grow as a person if you are not self aware and in order to be self aware you have to be wiling to do self reflection. When you know what your self limiting beliefs are, you have got to ask yourself “what is this holding me back from?” Once you realize how it is holding you back, then you can deconstruct it and break free from it.
A lot of the time we stop ourselves of doing great things because we allow our insecurities to hold us back and dictate what we can and can not do. We talk ourselves from accomplishing our goals, going after our passions and just being our authentic self. You have to realize that you are deserving and capable of all things great. Your voice matters, your opinion matters, you have what it takes to become and do whatever you put your mind to. You have to build your foundation of self confidence and self love, so that nothing can crumble it. Do not allow the opinions of others or the fear of being judged stop you from being your authentic self. Do not be disillusioned by time, life truly is short. We have got to stop procrastinating and start doing more of what we love. Start now and start somewhere, instead of saying tomorrow, ask your self “why not today”. However do not overwhelm yourself, come up with a goal and take a step each day towards that goal.
You have got to stop the negative thoughts in their tracks; remove the barriers that you have placed in front of yourself. You are capable of so much; do not allow your insecurities to minimize your skills and talents. Do not rob the world of the greatness that you have imprisoned inside of you, let it shine through. Do not let doubt in because doubt is the destroyer of dreams. Always remember that life is fleeting and that time waits for no one; therefore go after the life you want because you are capable and deserving of it.
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