How to weather the storm.
Updated: Feb 10
It is inevitable that in life we will go through ups and downs, we will face disappointment, experience heartbreak and betrayal. During these difficult times, we feel like the world is coming to an end, I am here to tell you it is not. You will get through it, just like you have gone through the other trials. You will be stronger and wiser because of it. Every time it is raining on you remember all the other rainy days that you have been able to overcome, use these days as a motivation to keep pushing and moving forward. Always keep in mind that the storm will pass, the sun will come out and a rainbow will emerge. You are going through these trials because God is shaping you into the person that you were destined to be, you will be stronger and more resilient than ever. The most important thing to remember is that this too shall pass and with every hardship comes ease. Trust me I know it is difficult to see the light when you are going through darkness, it is hard to see the sunshine when you are in the middle of the storm, but storms come to an end and the darkness eventually gets replaced with light.
In moments of difficulty it is crucial to surround yourself with people who will be there to motivate you, to support you and be there in your toughest moments, this will make all the difference in the world. If you do not have anyone to turn to, you can seek the help of a professional who will help you navigate through these tough times. A life coach, a therapist, a social worker, there are endless individuals that are there to lend their help and expertise. These professionals will help guide you by giving you the tools and resources needed to assist you through these dark and difficult moments. Do not be ashamed of what you are going through, every single human being goes through hardships, I know we live in an age of social media where individuals are sharing their curated photos and picture perfect lives. However keep in mind that is not real life, that is a snap shot that was filtered, autotuned and posed for. Majority of social media users showcase themselves in a positive light, there are only a few people that share their hardships. Do not allow social media to make you feel that you are less than, that you are the only one going through a difficult time because that is the furthest thing from the truth. A lot of people are going through silent battles that no one knows about, there are smiles that mask heartbreak, everyone is putting up a façade of having it together, but no one is sharing their trials, their breakdowns, their heartbreaks and disappointments. The lives that individuals are envying are not real , they are curated lifestyles geared towards attracting followers and tailored towards making money by selling products. Be aware of things that make your hardships and trials worse, follow people that inspire you, that fill your soul up with positivity and light. Do not compare yourself to others, everyone is on their own journey and comparison truly kills joy and contentment.
You have to look at the difficulties that you are currently facing, is it something that you have the power to change, is it something you need to heal from and move past. There are things in life that we are able to change and there are other things that we can not change, we just need to come to terms with it and find healthy ways to cope with, heal from it and let it go. Acceptance for your situation is a first great step to moving past it, a lot of the times people instead of focusing their energy on bettering themselves or coming to terms with their circumstances start blaming others and are in denial, these actions will keep you stagnant. You have got to ask yourself "is it within my power to change this situation"? If you can not change this situation, "how can you come to terms with it, how can you heal from it and how are you going to let it go and move forward with your life?" At times we need help to move forward from a hardship or trauma that others have inflicted on us, again it is all about self reflecting and seeing if you are able to do this on your own or do you need to seek help from a professional.
It is also crucial and important to talk about the emotions that are coming up for you during these difficult times. Name these feelings, sit with them, feel them and let it go. A lot of people try to suppress their feelings because they do not want to feel the pain but if you run away from your feelings, you will store them, you will get triggered and they will come up at a later time. It is healthy and needed for you to be able to sit with these emotions, talk about with a loved one or professional, feel it and let it go. Make sure that you are practicing self care during this difficult time, take care of yourself, take care of your body, do things that will help alleviate and reduce your stress. Find healthy ways to express your feelings, such as anger, how can you let it out in a healthy way, come up with techniques that will help you reduce your stress (ex; hiking, writing, massage etc).
Always remember that is not the end, the best is yet to come. The mere fact that you are breathing is all you need to keep going and continue fighting for the life that you want. These trials and obstacles are shaping you to become the person you were destined to be, so keep your head up and believe that God has many blessings coming your way. You will get through this storm, just like the ones before because you are fearless.
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